After a breakup, everyone goes through certain rituals in an attempt to get over their former lover. Photos are burned, love letters are shredded, articles of their clothing that once acted like a security blanket are tossed in the dumpster. Once that’s all done, the heart-broken can proudly announce, “I’m over them!” But we all know they’re lying. The day you’re truly over someone is not the day you set their old mixed CDs on fire, it’s the day you stop thinking about them altogether. My new article on Thought Catalog is a description of what that day might be like.