It’s Never Too Late To Change Your Career

There are few things more stressful for a 20-something than making it out of college and into the Real World, only to realize the career you’ve been pursuing isn’t for you. I can personally attest to this fact, having recently made the decision that even though I took the LSAT, spent hundreds of dollars on applications, and years working at law firms, I do *not* in fact want to go to law school to become an attorney.

But this wasn’t the first time I had planned out a career only to have it come crashing down around me, as my mother reminded me during a recent phone call. There was a time in my life I thought I wanted to be “a rainforest-dwelling assassin, hunting poachers in the name of defending the tigers.”

I know, right!?

In recalling that childhood story, I make some realizations about myself and about selecting careers in general, and it’s all here, in my new article for Thought Catalog.

Don’t Run From Who You Are: Writing Advice From George Saunders & Cheryl Strayed

Strayed and Saunders

This year, I had the honor and privilege of meeting two of my biggest literary heroes, George Saunders and Cheryl Strayed. In the unfortunate instance you aren’t already familiar, George Saunders is a renowned short story writer, whose recent book Tenth of December was hailed as “The Best Book You’ll Read This Year” by the New York Times; and Cheryl Strayed is the author of the best-selling memoir Wild, and provider of the wise words of “Dear Sugar,” a fanatically followed advice column on, recently compiled into the book Tiny Beautiful Things.

Both of them talked about how their writing careers got started, and what it takes to be a great writer. I was so touched, inspired, and encouraged by their words, that I knew I had to share with everyone (fellow aspiring writers especially). That article is finally here, new on Thought Catalog.

My first Op-ed for The Advocate is up!

Very excited to share that a Thought Catalog article I wrote a year ago is now a featured Op-ed over on The Advocate today. If you missed it the first time around, or just want to give it a re-read, you can go check it out by clicking here: That Time My Dad Made Me Go To Pride

From a closeted teenage boy to a proud grown man, Wes Janisen has grown up with the community.

How To Know If You’re “Settling”

About 6 months ago, I wrote an article about relationships for Thought Catalog, and shortly after it was published, I received an ‘anonymous ask’ in my Tumblr inbox. The person wrote:

Is there a line between having high expectations/standards and demanding perfection out of a significant other? I do think it’s true that nobody is perfect, but doesn’t letting mistakes and flaws go mean that you are just settling? (when is it considered being understanding, and when is it considered settling?). Sincerely, Am-I-expecting-too-much?

Needless to say, I was incredibly flattered that anyone would think to ask my opinion on a matter like this. I published a response to the best of my abilities, which is now my newest article on Thought Catalog.