Here’s What a Relationship Is Like When It’s Working

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It’s funny: when I was single, articles about Being Single poured out of me… one second I was having a coffee out in the city to feel a little less alone, and then bam: there was a thousand words about #TheSingleLife, typed up in a Word doc as if by magic. Now that I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years, you’d think I’d write about that instead. But I don’t. Maybe it’s because I’m worried I’ll jinx myself by flooding the internet with articles about being in love, only to get dumped 3 months later and end up hating myself for all the permanent remnants I left behind. Maybe it’s because it’s because when you’re happy, your natural inclination isn’t too turn to a laptop, but to the person who’s making you happy. Maybe I’m just lame and undisciplined and not making enough time to write anymore.

And yet, here’s a new article for Thought Catalog about being in a relationship that works. Because whatever I’m doing is working right now, and my affection runneth over enough that I decided to say, “fuck the jinx, and fuck being too lazy to write, here’s a thousand words on what it’s like to be happy.” Hope you like it.

A 20-Something’s Letter to Santa

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Nothing puts such a strong spotlight on the aging process quite like the holidays. Over are the days of asking for toys and games, replaced instead by the basic necessities you haven’t quite figured out how to buy for yourself like a real adult would. “A 20-Something’s Letter to Santa” is a satirical open letter to Santa Claus concerning our generation’s shifting needs this holiday season — and it’s up here on Huffpost Comedy.

You Don’t Always Have To Know Where You’re Going

big_thumb_b4bf894792813f09cad8ec470c16397bWhen you’re just starting to see someone new, it feels like every day presents a choice, a fork in the road: keep walking toward Relationshipville, or take a detour through Breakuptown and pick up someone new. And sometimes, you get so lost along the way, that you’re not sure where you’re headed at all… and that’s OK. As my new article for Thought Catalog explains, when it comes to relationships, you don’t always have to know where you’re going.

Confessions of an “Old” Virgin

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Once upon a time, I was a 23-year-old virgin. Now, I know that’s not insanely old, I don’t have anything on that 40-year-old virgin they made the movie about, but it *is* older than most people. According to a sex survey conducted by ABC, only 3% of Americans over the age of 22 are still chaste, and everyone knows that when you’re suffering through extra years of virginity you multiply those years by seven (as in dog-years), so actually I was, like, a 52-year-old virgin, so that movie should have really been made about me.

I shed some light and make some confessions about what life was like as an ‘Old Virgin’ in my latest article for Huffington Post Gay Voices. And of course you can check out more confessions from me in my e-book, “I Swear I’ll Be Good At It!,” here. And if you’re not much for reading, you can now download the audiobook version on Audible for your listening pleasure! Check out the sample below: 

The Beauty In Our Drunken, Late-Night Confessions

psr38g3q9m1In addition to my audiobook news, I also had a new article go up on Thought Catalog today. I know a lot of us try to avoid getting sloppy-drunk with friends we don’t know very well, or don’t see too often, but sometimes an alcohol-fueled catharsis is exactly the push we need to let people see what’s really going on in our lives. “The Beauty in Our Drunken, Late-Night Confessions” is a love letter to alcohol, to my friends, and to the idea that we’re perfectly OK just as we are.

“I Swear I’ll Be Good At It!” (Audiobook Edition) Is Out Today!

audibleinstaAudible bought the rights to my first e-book & I’m very excited to share that the audiobook edition of “I Swear I’ll Be Good At It!” is out today! So, if you ever wanted to hear *someone else* tell you funny stories about my formerly non-existent sex life, NOW YOU CAN! (Blood relatives & current boyfriend, please disregard this post, there’s nothing you need to listen to here.)

Huge thanks to my narrator Jed Drummond and the entire Audible team! You’re all incredible!

New Web Series ‘Paper Boys’ Delivers Diversity, Charisma and a Magical Twist You Never Saw Coming

2015-06-16-1434469763-3496973-paperboys_stills_01-thumbI think the unifying theme for every person in their 20’s, regardless of race, religion, or sexual orientation, is that none of us really has a clue what we’re doing. Cole, the main character of Paper Boys, is no exception to this rule. He’s trying to figure out how to land a job he loves (that will also pay the rent in one of the most expensive cities in the world), what to say to his straight best friend Daren who recently confessed he doesn’t want to marry his fiancée, and why he can’t seem to stop himself from stalking an old flame, Max, on Facebook. If all of this wasn’t enough to worry about already, Cole has also discovered that his sketchbook is, well… enchanted. Whatever Cole draws seems to happen in real life, and while this newfound power could be the answer to all his problems, he hasn’t quite figured out if it’s only going to make his life even more complicated.

Written by Curtis Casella and Kyle Cabral (Cabral also directs the series and stars as Cole), Paper Boys is a delightful new web series that takes the sometimes harsh reality of being a confused millennial trying to juggle love, a career, and a new city, and spices it up with a bit of magic to make it all the more captivating. The first two episodes have already generated over 90,000 views on YouTube, and the creators have recently succeeded in raising $10,500 via their Kickstarter campaign to create two more full episodes (and are hoping to raise even more to keep the series going).

I caught up with Kyle and Curtis, as well as Henry Lee (who plays Max), Kai Liu (who plays Rebecca), Sarah Elizabeth (who plays Charlie), and Nathan Brown (who plays Daren) over email, and asked them all about the inspiration behind Paper Boys, as well as what we can expect from future episodes — it’s all here on Huffington Post Gay Voices.