You Don’t Always Have To Know Where You’re Going

big_thumb_b4bf894792813f09cad8ec470c16397bWhen you’re just starting to see someone new, it feels like every day presents a choice, a fork in the road: keep walking toward Relationshipville, or take a detour through Breakuptown and pick up someone new. And sometimes, you get so lost along the way, that you’re not sure where you’re headed at all… and that’s OK. As my new article for Thought Catalog explains, when it comes to relationships, you don’t always have to know where you’re going.

5 Things To Remember When It Feels Like Your Job Hunt Will Never End

Exhausted-Job-Seeker-Blog-HeaderMost people have heard the adage “job-hunting is a full-time job,” but what often goes unsaid is that it’s pretty much the worst full-time job. It’s tedious, you have to work weekends, there are no happy hours with coworkers, and to top it all off, it doesn’t even pay the bills (well, at least not right away). So if you’ve been searching for months and are nowhere near landing your dream job, it’s understandable that you sometimes feel like you want to throw up your hands, open a bottle of wine, and call it quits. But before you start looking for sturdy cardboard boxes to live in, try first to remember these 5 important things, here on Thought Catalog.

What David Sedaris’ Fisting Joke Teaches Us About Art

david-sedaris-croppedA lot longer ago than I’d like to admit (I *really* need to start writing about things in a more timely manner!), I had the opportunity to hear best-selling author and acclaimed humorist David Sedaris speak, and he told us a pretty foul joke involving a grandma, a grandpa, and anal fisting. This might seem strange to some (ok, probably to most), but I found myself very inspired by the joke, as well as by the story surrounding it. Now, I’ve finally written about it for Thought Catalog, here.

You Should Fall For Someone Who Doesn’t Love You, on HuffPost

n-HEARTBREAK-large570The title essay of my new e-book, “You Should Fall For Someone Who Doesn’t Love You” is up on Huffington Post today. If you’re suffering from a broken heart (and maybe suffering worse than usual due to Valentine’s Day looming large), I think it’s worth a read.

…I mean, couldn’t hurt, right?

Don’t Run From Who You Are: Writing Advice From George Saunders & Cheryl Strayed

Strayed and Saunders

This year, I had the honor and privilege of meeting two of my biggest literary heroes, George Saunders and Cheryl Strayed. In the unfortunate instance you aren’t already familiar, George Saunders is a renowned short story writer, whose recent book Tenth of December was hailed as “The Best Book You’ll Read This Year” by the New York Times; and Cheryl Strayed is the author of the best-selling memoir Wild, and provider of the wise words of “Dear Sugar,” a fanatically followed advice column on, recently compiled into the book Tiny Beautiful Things.

Both of them talked about how their writing careers got started, and what it takes to be a great writer. I was so touched, inspired, and encouraged by their words, that I knew I had to share with everyone (fellow aspiring writers especially). That article is finally here, new on Thought Catalog.

How To Know If You’re “Settling”

About 6 months ago, I wrote an article about relationships for Thought Catalog, and shortly after it was published, I received an ‘anonymous ask’ in my Tumblr inbox. The person wrote:

Is there a line between having high expectations/standards and demanding perfection out of a significant other? I do think it’s true that nobody is perfect, but doesn’t letting mistakes and flaws go mean that you are just settling? (when is it considered being understanding, and when is it considered settling?). Sincerely, Am-I-expecting-too-much?

Needless to say, I was incredibly flattered that anyone would think to ask my opinion on a matter like this. I published a response to the best of my abilities, which is now my newest article on Thought Catalog.