It’s funny: when I was single, articles about Being Single poured out of me… one second I was having a coffee out in the city to feel a little less alone, and then bam: there was a thousand words about #TheSingleLife, typed up in a Word doc as if by magic. Now that I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years, you’d think I’d write about that instead. But I don’t. Maybe it’s because I’m worried I’ll jinx myself by flooding the internet with articles about being in love, only to get dumped 3 months later and end up hating myself for all the permanent remnants I left behind. Maybe it’s because it’s because when you’re happy, your natural inclination isn’t too turn to a laptop, but to the person who’s making you happy. Maybe I’m just lame and undisciplined and not making enough time to write anymore.
And yet, here’s a new article for Thought Catalog about being in a relationship that works. Because whatever I’m doing is working right now, and my affection runneth over enough that I decided to say, “fuck the jinx, and fuck being too lazy to write, here’s a thousand words on what it’s like to be happy.” Hope you like it.
When you’re just starting to see someone new, it feels like every day presents a choice, a fork in the road: keep walking toward Relationshipville, or take a detour through Breakuptown and pick up someone new. And sometimes, you get so lost along the way, that you’re not sure where you’re headed at all… and that’s OK. As my new article for Thought Catalog explains, when it comes to relationships, you don’t always have to know where you’re going.
About 6 months ago, I wrote an article about relationships for Thought Catalog, and shortly after it was published, I received an ‘anonymous ask’ in my Tumblr inbox. The person wrote:
Is there a line between having high expectations/standards and demanding perfection out of a significant other? I do think it’s true that nobody is perfect, but doesn’t letting mistakes and flaws go mean that you are just settling? (when is it considered being understanding, and when is it considered settling?). Sincerely, Am-I-expecting-too-much?
Needless to say, I was incredibly flattered that anyone would think to ask my opinion on a matter like this. I published a response to the best of my abilities, which is now my newest article on Thought Catalog.